如果您想让亲密关系持续升温，让关系更加深入成长及有意义，“一把亲密钥匙，揭开关系密码”是适合你的理想工作坊。 是的，探戈需要两个人，这就是许多人陷入悲伤的原因，因为每个人都想要对方满足自己的期望。唯一有效的方法是让每个人都100％承诺于建立关系，无论其伴侣如何展现自己。 缺陷是在于“ 50-50”公式中，让我们很容易假设这样的公式是正确的。毕竟，加起来不应是100％吗？ 我们将在此工作坊将为大家揭开一些假设和误解。
I knew who I was as a person, a daughter, a citizen, an activist, a worker and a friend - but who I as a woman? Despite personal progress and development I felt handicapped by my gender. I hated it when my father brought up the issue of marriage because it felt like I was being forced to 'settle down' and 'bear babies'. Was my worth equal only to my looks, my fertility and marriageable prospects? What I found in this workshop is not so much the answers to my questions but a new understanding of what it means to be a woman. My most profound experience was when I found my ideas of my own sex appeal, attractiveness, intelligence and strength chalenged—but where I expected to fight and defend, I found that there was no need for that. I am perfect, whole and complete the way that I am. I did not have to change to be the woman that I want to be, I simply had to embrace the woman that I am.
There is a magical alchemy when quietly powerful women get together to connect, commune and celebrate each other. It is like discovering unexpected new treasures and, at the same time, finding our way home again. The Women's Empowerment Workshop is an extraordinary platform for this to happen. There are not many spaces in this world where women can be seen for who we truly are and for all we can become. It has given me a deep feeling of completeness to have found such a rare and sacred haven for the woman I am!
I grew up thinking that women are competitors, that as a woman I can’t expect support from other women. The harder I tried to be the confident woman I envisioned the more exhausted I felt. For everything I wanted to do and become, there was always that voice in me that gave me every reason why I couldn’t. It was a revelation to me in the Women’s Empowerment Workshop that other women felt the same way, that all of us had the same struggles and that we could therefore be sisters. That was my breakthrough because I then decided that, like everyone else, I could step up, and by doing so empower others to do the same. I have since started a beauty business which has become my way of supporting and empowering women—my way of thanking them for empowering me. That business has led recently to my being conferred the Golden Phoenix Award 2018 for Excellent Entrepreneurship by the Asia Excellent Entrepreneur Federation.
After the ALS, I had the opportunity to undergo other Milestone Trainings programmes. One of them was Living Everyday in Abundance and Prosperity, or LEAP. I did LEAP in 2013. My mind was enriched, through LEAP, with knowledge of things that I did not even know that I did not know! Many possibilities opened up for me and I acquired tools that require simple practice and discipline to ensure that I am indeed living my life everyday in abundance and prosperity! I signed up for Living Everyday in Abundance and Prosperity because I wanted to have a better understanding of how money can flow abundantly to me in my life. I learned to confront my subconscious beliefs about money. I realised that I had a scarcity conversation about money. I had been telling myself that money is hard to get, that I had to work hard for my money, and that was why money could not flow easily to me. Since the moment I changed my perspective about money, I noticed that things have been different for me. I felt more open and ready to receive good things for myself. I felt grateful and thankful for all that I have and eager to create bigger things in my life. I worry so much less about not having enough. LEAP taught me to create an abundant and prosperous life. Many people who come across the I am still learning to practise the law of attraction - which was all the rage then, and is still widely spoken about in the world today - find that it is all words and concept. Although LEAP was not a training on the law of attraction, it resulted in my experiencing the things that appeared in my thoughts to materialise in my physical world. Through the experiential exercises during LEAP, I began to understand what it meant for my thoughts to attract the results in my life. My consciousness and awareness expanded and overflowed into other opportunities in life that took me further towards living the life I dream of. Through LEAP, I have also learned the importance of working with both the left and the right sides of my brain. This is something very significant for me, because I am actually living that now! From a full-time lawyer whose major brain principles of LEAP, but already, I have noticed that my experience of many things in my life seems to have become lighter and easier. One of the principles I began to explore was the power of affirmation. I have discovered that there is a kind of “magic” that just works in its own way. Sometimes, I feel like the universe does conspire to ensure that I live in prosperity. I have noticed that the power of the mind and the law of attraction is not just theory, and sometimes, I can’t decide if I am amazed or freaked out! LEAP taught me about being enough. To be enough with what I have and to surrender to it. My experience in LEAP has extended beyond the money issue that I started with. In my relationships, I have learned to be grateful for and appreciate the exercises were on the left side of people who love me, accepting my brain, I am now the proud owner of my own firm that does both Employment Law and Art, tapping into both sides of my brain. As a result, I have found a way to create a work-life balance for myself as well as for my clients and their employees. The incorporation of law and art had always been my dream.
I had gained so much value from the Advanced Living Series - it was an experience of completion and arrival at where I was and who I am. Yet, sometime after I had graduated my Legacy, I felt as if there was something more that was still missing. I realised that even as I achieved my goals, I still did not really feel the satisfaction I expected to feel. I also thought that I should be able to handle the breakdowns in my actions much better. So, I got myself into both the Masters Course and Personal Mastery in the same year! In the Masters Course I began to see myself in the moment - my emotions, my judgments, my beliefs, and the conversations running through my head - even as I am taking action and engaging with other people. Anger and disappointment tended to come up in my work, when I know that things are not going exactly the way I expect. In that very moment I experience my anger welling up from within, and can remind myself that anger was not working. I start practising getting clear about what was happening with me and that has helped me handle the emotions, judgments and beliefs that I discovered in my inner self. As time goes by, I can more easily notice the emotions, feelings and judgements in me, and now within the shortest time I am able to find my solution for handling everything and found this to be the solution for everything.
Coming from having staffed the Discovery and Transformation trainings, I found senioring a Legacy to be a very different game. Spending 100 days with a group of motivated, inspired individuals who are passionate about life is very fulfilling and nourishing for my soul. I must admit that before I served as a senior for the first time, I saw my peers senioring and I had this perception that senioring was a very busy role and that I would need to compromise my personal time and my own life to be able to serve. Due to this belief, it took me 4 years to actually step up to be a senior as I kept telling myself I was not ready. However, when I did walk the path of a senior, I found myself having more time than ever! I could accomplish so much more in a shorter time frame. My efficiency and productivity level seemed to have increased at least threefold! Senioring allowed me to see that I still had much to learn. It showed up my limiting beliefs and gave me the opportunity to conquer and transcend them. I am truly blessed and honored to have had the opportunity to senior Legacy 37 and I am looking forward to my next senioring experience. It is truly empowering for me to witness the growth in a group of individuals who began as strangers and ended up as life-long friends.
When I first heard about the Advanced Living Series, I was already pretty happy & strong, growing in my spiritual journey, having climbed out of a dark space called rock bottom and gone through a series of different, powerful experiential learning programmes, reading various books and learning from many teachers. I felt like I was healed but not quite whole, and I was seeking a deeper connection to some source of intuition or wisdom. After the Transformation Training I found what I was looking for, the courage and support that enabled me to resuscitate a passion that I had allowed to be suppressed for the longest time: Art. I broke out of my limiting beliefs which had kept me from seeing the monetisation of the outlet of my passion as a possibility. What’s really awesome is that I’m achieving all this by embodying the highest version of me in all these areas through my magical relationships, my strong, healthy and fit body, my ever-growing art and dance practice, and my various wealth and humanity-building businesses and investments. It has been a powerful and fun stretch and I am conscious that I can and am and will be who I am meant to be. My vision is a world of empowered people living authentically in love and joy, and enjoying the life of their dreams. My mission is to inspire and empower people towards that vision. I do this because I’ve been through many versions of “hell” and yet have been able to reinvent myself, and enjoy many more versions of “heaven” while still keeping my feet on the ground, so much so that there is no longer “heaven” or “hell”. If I can serve others through what I have learned and am learning, being who I have become and who I am becoming, that would be a meaningful path for me
A young lady named Wei Yei, sweet and gentle as she was, was quite persistent in getting me to enrol in the Advanced Living Series programme. She shared with me how I could actually have more time and enjoy living my life while creating great results. I was really curious and decided that I would find out how this could even be possible. As it turned out, it was! In the training, I learned the importance of acknowledging myself, and of appreciating the people who are with me in my success. This enables me, each time, to push my limits to win a even bigger goal. I took up corporate social responsibility for my business and worked at taking care of people who were in less fortunate circumstances. I initiated a movement called “#i3move”, which stands for a movement to “initiate, inspire and influence”. I can see there is so much that I can contribute. Just recently, I was nominated as one of Ten Outstanding Young Malaysians and earned a place among the 100 Most Influential Young Entrepreneurs 2016. We also became Dato’ Jonathan and Datin Alicia! Alicia and I - each having completed the training are now very close in our relationship. We have learned to communicate our thoughts openly and we can share freely whatever is in the depths of our heart. We appreciate every moment we have together and are committed to creating the experience of love between us. As I went through the training, I could see how important a role parents play in shaping the future of their children. I want our children to grow up to speak and share their thoughts freely and to be a leader in their own life. Meanwhile, I practise listening and patience when I am with them. Lastly, we have learned that by giving our love, support and contribution, we can make a difference to the people around us, to create an inclusive and caring society and from there, perhaps, having our country be that much better off. We want to continue to inspire and to share our love everywhere!
I was the “bad” boy you would not want to bring home to introduce to your parents and I was proud of that! There were too many bad habits and attitudes to mention, that I had taken on to appear “manly” in the way I thought was the right way to be. What I learned from the Discovery Training is that the personality that I presented to the world was not who I truly was. It was an image carved out from my past experiences in failed relationships and heartbreaks. The biggest breakthrough came about when I revisited my heart and was reminded about what a loving man I really am deep inside, a caring son and a trustworthy friend. From the Transformation Training, I regained my personal power and began to make choices to live and show up as a loving, caring and trustworthy man. Four years after completing Legacy, I am now an entrepreneur, a husband and a father-to-be! My relationship with my parents has never been better in my 30 years of life. I have made new friends who challenge me to constantly improve on what I do and who I become, all the time, and they keep me on track to achieve my goals and I do the same for them. Life is no longer filled with the gloomy and dreadful prospect of just getting by. It is now filled with joy, with so much to look forward to. And it all started with my simple willingness to stop, look and see the possibilities available, and then choose anew, which means that I have the opportunity always to live the best version of me. For that I thank Milestone Trainings from the bottom of my heart, for here is where I found me again!
Looking back, I had been a people pleaser all my life, always going out of my way to please others, maintaining composure whatever happened so long as I could appear to be on top of things, so that others need not worry about me. However, when I didn’t receive the warmth and support from others when I needed it the most, I began to build a wall around my heart, afraid of being hurt and, over time, it became difficult for me to show my love. All this, with an underlying fear of losing control, of unexpected and unpredictable situations, of confrontation with people, with myself. The Discovery Training was very liberating as I began to see, for the first time in a long time, the possibilities available to me to achieve my goals, even with the ever present fear that seemed to follow me. I saw that I was living as if I were a victim of my own life. I operated and lived through life as though I did not have freedom or choice. When I chose to leave the victim behind, it became possible to live responsibly and powerfully. It was in the Transformation Training that I had a new experience of love, vulnerability and courage. When I began to take down that wall around my heart, willing to risk being hurt, I found an immense joy that I thought I had lost forever. I learned that each life is precious and has a purpose, including my own. I had ignored who I am, what I am meant to create in my life and I had forgotten my ability to love. I had put everyone else before me because I wanted them to like me. I didn’t believe they would love me for me. I didn’t believe in myself. When I think of my experience in the Transformation Training, the words that come to mind are that “love is only a word until I give it away”. Soon after my adventures in Legacy, I made a decision to join Milestone Trainings as a full time staff because I had found a platform that allows me to realize my vision for the world. I want to be a part of the process of having each person live up to their fullest potential and to fulfill the purpose of their life. All of us can play a bigger game in our lives, yet we are held back by fear and doubt, things we make up in our minds. I believe that this world can be a brighter place as we choose to be the light, the source of love and empowerment, which can overcome even the darkest hour. No fear! This is how I will make my life count! Yasha, had been in customer service in the multi-level marketing industry for 6 years, where she learned how to solve problems for and communicate with all kinds of people - the good, the bad, the ugly. She later spent 2 years as head of human resources, and personal assistant to the CEO, of a construction machinery company. Yasha has since joined the Milestone Trainings team in a role where she continues to thrive, “doing whatever it takes”! She confesses to be a coffee addict who finds her Zen moments in origami.
The process in Discovery was both eye and mind opening and I found myself revisiting the area that I had taken for granted and forgotten - to feel and to decide with my heart. It became possible for me to address that “judgmental” side of myself that was harsh and not able to listen, and to become more vigorous and conscious with my behaviour and my actions. My relationship with my family has since been improving continuously and my life has become purposeful and focussed on all the right things. It is really a ‘wow’ for me to have gained insight and a heightened awareness on things about myself, the conversations in my head, the constant drift I am in, and to become more rigorous in making decisions and choices, as well as seeing options that I never thought I had before. Of course, there are still times when I jump into making some decision but I am so much more able to pause and self-check before I blurt out or act on anything that I might regret later. And so, I continue to learn, and to Discover…
My name is Daniel Lo. I am 45 years old, a father of three, serving as a Special Officer to Senator Datuk Paul Low, Minister in the Prime Minister’s Department. In the world there are an estimated 27 million modern-day slaves. Yup! Imagine that! Just about as many people as there are living in Malaysia - all working and living as slaves. I faced huge challenges, working with an NGO to combat human trafficking. There were too many people to help, too many complications and just too few people working on the problem and not enough money. But that didn’t stop me. With all my mind and all my heart I gave it a 100%, yet every time, there were shortages and failings. I don’t think that I was being too hard on myself because deep down, I felt that there was something missing. I felt that I had greater potential that I wasn’t accessing. It was like there was a super mutant power that I had but couldn’t get in touch with. I needed a Professor Xavier to help me. I ended up joining the Discovery program first and then the Transformation and also the Legacy program. It truly lived up to their names - I discovered so much about myself. It was as though I was a stranger to myself all this time. My life - ME! - became exciting. This was a great introduction to go on and really do some work and transform myself and then to produce a legacy of which I could be proud. The Legacy part of the program is effectively 100 days of personal coaching with the support of your team. They will kick your butt and make sure you produce the results which you want. Whilst there were parts of my Chinese brain which said, “Aiyoh! Why so expensive?” I knew it wasn’t because there is no other program which can provide that kind of personal coaching for that price. It was like, “No need to think one! Actually, it is so cheap!”. Any other personal coaching program for 100 days would be tens of thousands of ringgit.
Douglas Alex Chee
Douglas是蜕变培训领域里专于体验式教学的大师级导师。他已经在香港，台北，中国，新加坡，印尼和马来西亚进行培训。他是励程培训的创办人之一及培训总监。 Douglas曾是一家大型体验式培训公司及其马来西亚，新加坡和印尼的联营公司的東南亚区域总监。除了招募、培养和管理每个国家的员工和经营之外，Douglas成为备受认证的资深导师，并在2005年三月荣获培训大师的殊荣。他也在马来西亚和新加坡的这家培训公司以国家经理的身份服务了9年。 Douglas帶領的培训课程包括探索，蜕变，Legacy（领袖），亲密力量，大师，初心(Odyssey)，青少年工作坊，丰盛富足，关系，沟通和性教育工作坊。 他获得Keith Bentz授权带领初心(Odyssey)及Sylvia Badasci 授权带领关系工作坊。 Douglas在马来西亚政府国民服务计划书的品格建立单元的的撰写、发展和训练扮演重要和关键的角色，包括设计和执行培训师的培训。他已经在亚洲训练了千千万万的人关于领袖，突破，觉察，沟通和关系。 在职业生涯的早期，他曾担任整合行销传播公司的部门经理和出版公司的顾问，专门从事出版和媒体领域的雇员招聘，培训和管理。他还共同创办了马来西亚最大的医学报纸‘Malaysian Medical Tribune’。 他兼职学习并于2002年10月获得高级策略管理工商管理硕士学位。他喜欢阅读非小说并与家人共度时光。他也是经过认证的特技演员。 他目前在亚洲各地进行培训，同时在马来西亚提供这些有力量的课程。
-Dr. John Gottman